Welcome! Thanks for reading my blog, BEEN THERE, GIRL.
Learning to date again after divorce is hard, let alone to trust a man again. Are you at the point you don’t even think it is possible? Skeptical that true love even exist? You CAN find love again and believe it or not, online is most likely where you will find it. Are you a mom, perhaps even a grandma with a career and a full schedule? You CAN take charge and have a dating life as well. Been there girl is just what it says. I have been there and know what I am talking about. (Check out MY story below). I have heard it all and believe me when I tell you , I wish I would’ve went online for support before I ever signed up or “swiped right” on that first profile. Dating is hard work. more so now than ever. It’s not like it was when we were 18, 20 or even 30. Now, there are a lot of factors to consider and safety is a big part of that.
So, come on in and know you are safe to laugh, cry and vent with others who are going through the same things.
Here, you will learn the secrets to dating, confidence builders, flirting, attraction and lots more. We are all divorced and dating, not dead! Let me help you learn to live to YOUR full potential, then you can get out there and kill it girl!
my personAL STORY
My personal path to the Been there, Girl blog happened for many reasons. I was always giving myself to others to make their dreams happen or to help them in some way and realized I never gave myself the same. I didn’t want to “wake up” one day and realize my life had passed me by or to live with regrets. When I hit 40, I started really thinking about changing some things.
I was stuck in a dead-end job (18+ years as a Kitchen & Bath designer) I no longer loved, I grew tired of owning my own business because I had a partner who was never on board to creative ideas and truly, I JUST FELT STUCK! As in, stuck in a rut! I had been married for almost 20 years and I no longer felt my partner supported my dreams or ambitions. In addition, I was raising 5 kids and they were getting old enough to care for themselves more and I knew I wanted something more out of life then just being their mom. I had always wanted to live in a loft in the city where I could explore and go to different events like plays, the opera and art museums and that was never going to happen where I was.
So fast forward past all the down & dirty stuff to now. Sent another child off to college (GO REBELS!), divorced, moved out-of-state and started the blog. Left my career and spread my wings. Now, I realize not everyone can or is WILLING to do this, but I have always been a “go big or go home” kinda girl, so that’s what I did. And you know what? I didn’t fail or fall off the face of the earth (although it did feel like it at first). Since I had been self-employed for almost all of my adult life, I branched out and found some work and kept busy and focused. Three years has passed. The kids are happy, I am happy and after a year of online dating, I have remarried!
I am so blessed to be able to spend my days writing at home and spending time with my best friend! We see life as a journey, not just the destination, so YES! we love to travel together and plan all sorts of Bucket List things to do. It is so wonderful to share my hobbies and passions with someone who just “gets me”.
If someone would’ve told me all of this would happen 5 years ago, I would’ve thought they were nuts. But guess what? I am TRULY living the life I always envisioned for myself.
- Was it scary? Heck yeah.
- Was there lean time? Yes.
- Days I felt like giving up? You bet. BUT
- (you knew that was coming 🙂 ) my life is really good. I finally feel alive and so so blessed! and if it happened to me, it can happen to you too.
I’m thrilled that I can use this blog to achieve my own personal goals and to help and encourage other women over 40 to know life is not over after a divorce.
I have continued my “less is more” attitude and done a deep clean of my home, my relationships and my life in general.
I have really focused on self-care, stress management and living more healthy.
So, tell me? What are you willing to change to achieve your hopes and dreams and start living your best life?